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THE CAUSE OF DIVORCE TODAY
There are permissible things. But the most hated permissible thing in the sight of Allah ‘Azza wa-Jalla is divorce. Staying married is better. Getting divorced is a permission given by Shari’ah. In Islam, it is not like in other falsified religions like Christianity and Judaism. They say there is no divorce for people. But then they made things up as they liked. But normally, as they make their religion according to their desires, they say it is forbidden to get divorced. However, in Islam – All of them have it.
Getting divorced is a permissible thing hated by Allah ‘Azza wa-Jalla. Even though He ﷻ permits is, He ﷻ doesn’t like it. Because Allah ‘Azza wa-Jalla doesn’t want families to disperse. He ﷻ doesn’t want people to be enemies to each other. He ﷻ wants them to have love and to get along well. In order for children not to be devastated, it is something Allah ‘Azza wa-Jalla doesn’t like.
But in this time, people have no patience. They get married, and after three months, five months, after a year, most married couples decide to get divorced saying they couldn’t get along. As the person was alone, it requires a lot of time to get used to another person. People are impatient in this time and decide to get divorced. And they get divorced. They say they couldn’t get along, or they didn’t suit each other. It is not like you buying a car and getting rid of it if you don’t like it. Allah ‘Azza wa-Jalla created everyone in the same way. If you don’t like this one, is another one going to be better?
The biggest secret of getting along is to be patient. People are not patient with themselves. So being patient with another person becomes difficult. However, this is something that has to be done. It is not for your pleasure. Women must be patient with their husbands, and men must be patient with their wives. Sometimes they must say “Ok”, sometimes they must say “No”. Not everything should be “Ok”. Sometimes what some people want must be done. Sometimes it must not be done. Whatever they are capable of, they should do. If they go on each other by saying “I want this. I want that” even though they can’t afford it, the result is they will be getting divorced then. It will be something Allah ‘Azza wa-Jalla doesn’t like. And it will be worse to them if they have children. If they don’t have, it is a little easier.
Sometimes people know each other for a long time before getting married. And after getting married, shaytan brings up bigger things then. Shaytan causes more Fitnah to them and comes between them. Therefore, in order not to obey shaytan and your ego, you must know their families, backgrounds and characters well before getting married so that you get along well without much disputes in the end. This is important.
In old times, parents would know each other. Now there is no such thing. Yet, you should ask and find out how their families are, how they are, how they live and deal with people. You must look into it very well so that unknown things don’t show up later. There may be things people don’t know. And because of them, they get divorced.
We ask that Allah ﷻ gives good relations. People of the end of times are so different. People of old times were much more patient, they got along with each other much better. Nowadays, they can’t get along at all. You will be surprised at the complaints that often come to us. Because of reasons that won’t even fill a fig seed, they have left each other and separated.
May Allah ﷻ give good relations. May Allah ﷻ protect us, because the institution of marriage is important. It is the most important institution in Islam. A family is what keeps the society, the Islamic society together. May Allah ﷻ protect us from the evil of shaytan. May He ﷻ protect us from the evil of our egos insha’Allah. May we all have good relations insha’Allah. Wa min Allah at-Tawfiq. Al-Fatiha.
Mawlana Sheikh Muhammad Adil ar-Rabbani
11 December 2023/ 27 Jumada al-Awwal 1445
Fajr Prayer, Akbaba Dergah
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